What should you do when someone rejects you | Deal with your rejections | by Archana polai

The scenario could be like this.........

Suppose you entered on the  restaurant you ordered for some cheese pizza  and you will get pepperoni pizza then what you will do? Obviously you will reject it. M I right? you know the reason behind that rejection.  Is there  any fault on that cheese pizza behind your rejection?  Nooo! you rejected that because the pizza was not able to satisfy your requirement. 

This same thing happens with you when someone doesn't like you, or you won't able to satisfy the requirement of other person then  they reject you. 

Accept the truth!

It is true  that everyone is not going to like you. Even I m also not here for you to like me. There would be someone at some point is going to reject you.  Whether it would in a  job, studies, relationship or a business. 

It totally depends upon you how you are taking that rejection. Remember that you are a diamond, people may throw you like a coal  but, you should know your value. If there would be some action then there would be a chances of getting rejection but, due to the fear of rejection it doesn't mean that you shouldn't take any action. 

Most people do when they are rejected.

These are some of the most likely  actions and perspective of the people towards a rejection.

• Most people take rejection as a demotivation.

• They get depressed

• Rejection = pain

• They think they are lacking somewhere.

• Life is over

• This is the worst thing that I had achieved in my life.

    

•  Sitting alone and feeling lonely

•  Start doubting on their own capabilities.

•  They Overreacts on their             partners or on their family members.

     

•  Sharing their stories on a social media by creating some posts.

     

•  Taking Immediate band-aid  (Smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, taking opium etc)

•  Mentally disturbed.

• Feeling stressed & anxiety

How to deal with that rejections?

Till now you came to know that what are the reasons behind your rejection and the actual meaning of rejection.  Now it's time to find some effective ways to deal with that rejection.

Here it is!

1) Share It

Hey! I m not talking here about a share it app. There is an universal truth that is when you share your happiness with others then it will double your happiness & when you will share your pains with others then your pain will definitely reduced from 100kg to 10gm. 

When you will share your pains with others it doesn't make you crt it means you are healed. Start sharing your rejection pains with your loved ones. You might be thinking that " I was in a relationship and my girlfriend rejects me so, with whom I should share my pain". Don't worry I m here to kill all your doubts. 

You need a person who is always ready to listen you, be with you from the birth till the death, who has the solutions of each and every problems, who can hold your hand on the worst and best situation of your life. You are guessing wrong I m not that person that person is one and only 'YOU'. So, take a piece of paper and express all your feelings that you want to share through that pen. Write on that paper. Share it with yourself.

2) Move On

Whatever the rejection might be the first and the foremost important step is to move on. Go ahead! Don't stuck on that. Just move on. Whether it would be a job interview or a girl rejects you just have to do only thing is to move ahead.

While moving on, if you want some encouragement then you can hear some inspirational speeches from those rejected people but, today they had become successful and strong through that rejections.

3) Analyse and Introspect

After getting rejection, it is very important for you to analyse and introspect yourself. 

Ask yourself why you are being rejected, what you had learn & gain through this phase. start finding the why's behind your rejection.  You will get the answer of all your questions of being rejected. You will came to know that whether you were lacking somewhere or you don't fit the requirement of the other person.

Earlier katrina kaif was being rejected for making film just because her face was not similar to Indian heroine. But, it doesn't mean that katrina kaif was lacking somewhere. It just that she won't able to satisfy the requirement of Indian directors.

But today you know that she had became a most popular Indian actress.

4) Prepare yourself for 'NO'

Here, No means not a negative word. In fact NO stands for a "Next Opportunity". Yaaa, 

you had read a accurate word keep reading.

If you had been rejected for a job interview then don't be sad. Start preparing for another job interview because next opportunity is coming on your way. So, it's your duty to prepare yourself and be ready for grabbing that  next opportunity.

All the best for preparation!

5) Change your attitude towards rejections.

Stop thinking that rejection= pain. In fact, rejection = gain through this rejection you are going to gain something. Remember that rejection has the power to break you or to make you it totally depends upon your perspective.  Whatever the phase that you are going to face in your life always have a positive attitude. 

If your girlfriend rejects you, then start appreciating yourself because someone better is going to be enter in your life. If  things doesn't happen according to your plan it's a signal of something good is coming in your way. Suppose your boss chunks  out you, from the job it means god had been planned something great for you. Trust on him!

6) Be like a flower.

Let me give you one quick example....

While walking on the garden I plucked one flower and try to smell it. On that flower there was a small insect sitting on that  So, what I did I throw that flower. I reject it! A few days later I saw the same flower blooming on that pot. That day I realised that the flower didn't get any affected of my rejection. In fact that flower struggled inside the pot keep fighting on that soil and at the start of the day finally bloom with her lovely petals.

What I actually want to say is you should adopt a nature of a flower. When people rejects you, you shouldn't get affected by that rejection. Keep fighting with your fears and upgrade yourself. So, the world will able see your unique petals ( be the best version of you) 

7) Know your value

You are unique in this world. You are precious like a ruby & gems. Don't give the Power to the people to rate you. People may don't know your value and your capabilities  

they are going to judge you according to their knowledge and skills at the end of the day, they will say that you are not capable of anything. But you should know your value who you are & what you could be.

In fact, it's not possible for everyone to know your value. Let me tell you that it's not easy for everyone to recognise the real diamond and value it. But, only the real diamond merchant knows the value of diamond. 

You are a precious like a diamond but remember that, everyone is not a diamond merchant.

These are some of the easy and effective ways to deal with your rejections.

Final thoughts

Recently my  HSC result had been declared and I didn't get expected result. After sitting 

a sleepless nights and putting a priceless efforts, it really hurts me when I didn't get expected results. You know I was trying to convince my friends that marks are just a number but, it was too difficult for me to convince myself. 

At the end of the day ( at night)  while I was having a deep conversation with myself I realised that God had been planned something great for me and he is dragging me towards it. If you are a student and reading this article till here then remember this 2 digit doesn't have the ability to define you.

What are your thoughts about rejections please let me know in the comment section. I would love to hear your thoughts.

See you in the next article.

Stay blessed & stay tuned!